I attended a conference yesterday geared towards helping women in business (Damesbond). While I was there I heard several speakers and some lovely oration. One speaker with whom I resonated is named Suzanne Roberts of Womengenerating.com. Her work in polarity therapy and somatic trauma resolution has allowed her to be an effective coach for anyone wanting to feel safety and support within their own body. She also defined the word Confidence as meaning “not wanting an outcome.”
What? Did I hear her right? not wanting an outcome? I was taught early on to portray confidence to appear like I don’t care about outcomes, when in fact, I cared very much (Don’t let them see you sweat – a popular deodorant advertises). And yet this definition feels like entering into the benevolent grounds of loving detachment. How often do I want an outcome for myself or my children, for example? especially when in the process, I judge it all as “messy”. I heard a teacher once say that the soul prefers things messy. Perhaps it is because it is more honest?